Wednesday, June 04, 2014

Quote of the Day

. . . So, I want to tell you something, son, and I want to make it perfectly clear to you in a way that cannot be misconstrued. You are never ever entitled to sex with anyone. Sex isn’t something you have a right to or a right to expect. It is not a reward, it is not a favour, it is not a payment, it is not ‘due’ after the third date, it is not a gift, it is not a rite of passage, it is not a holy grail you find at the end of a quest or anything else remotely like that. And we need to make sure we never treat it that way.

Sex is an act. Sex is something someone does WITH you as a willing and equal partner, hopefully as a loving partner too. Enjoy it, it’s great fun, it can bring you closer to someone you love, make you feel wonderful and even has health benefits. But it is not everything. It’s not your entire life. . . .

– Seamus Curtain-Magee
Excerpted from "A Letter to My Son About Elliot Rodger"
Dadinating the Country Side
May 30, 2014

Related Off-site Links:
UC Santa Barbara Rampage Leaves 7 Dead – Raquel Maria Dillon, Martha Mendoza and Julie Watson (Associated Press via The Huffington Post, May 24, 2014).
Sheriff: Elliot Rodger Fired 50-plus Times in Isla Vista Rampage – Richard Winton and Kate Mather (Los Angeles Times, June 4, 2014).
Elliot Rodger's Misogynist Manifesto is 'Familiar' to All Women, Professor Says – Ryan Buxton (The Huffington Post, May 29, 2014).
Elliot Rodger and Misogyny Denialism: The Call is Coming From Inside the House – Greta Christina (Free Thought Blogs, June 3, 2014).
Hey, Guys: Elliot Rodger is Our Problem – Andrew O'Hehir (Salon, May 31, 2014).
The Toxic Appeal of the Men's Rights Movement – James S. Fell (Time, May 29, 2014).
The Common Roots of Misogynist Culture in Pakistan and the U.S. – Sonali Kolhatkar (, June 5, 2014).

See also the previous Wild Reed posts:
A Fresh Take on Masculinity
Edward Sellner on the Archetype of the Double and Male Eros, Friendships and Mentoring
The Prison of Pornography
Relationship: The Crucial Factor in Sexual Morality
The Non-Negotiables of Human Sex
The Holy Pleasure of Intimacy
Sex as Mystery, Sex as Light (Part 1)
Sex as Mystery, Sex as Light (Part 2)


Seamus said...

Thanks for sharing!

Michael J. Bayly said...

You're welcome, Seamus! Thanks for writing your powerful letter in the first place.